For a while, you’ve known the messages you’ve received through the years don’t add up to this consequential part of your identity; your erotic identity. Although you’ve been told the world has progressed and “come a long way,” you still find it near impossible to have a vulnerable and protected space to explore all that surrounds intimacy, pleasure, kink, and eroticism. When you look online, you find endless articles touting heterosexist, monogamous, and shaming ideas surrounding sex and sexuality. Therapists specialize in sexual dysfunction and addiction but squirm at the mention of BDSM and anal. You often find you can fit one of very few boxes, which often catapults you from unhealthy obsession with sex to unhealthy unavoidance of it.